Sunday, May 28, 2017

My purpose

When I introduce myself to a stranger I always state my name, but what follows depends on my audience. "Hi! I'm Wanda, I am... a daughter, a sister, a 'single' mother of five, an aunt, a college graduate, a teacher, bilingual, from Puerto Rico, Catholic, my son's pancreas, soon to be a mother in law, A PRISON WIFE!"

For many years only a small number of people were aware of that last title. I wanted to appear to be as normal as possible. In my mind, having a husband in prison was the farthest from normal. I worried that people would not take me seriously or would think that I was a bad person. Four years into my journey I received a bachelors degree and became a teacher. That's when I really became secretive about my relationship. Fast forward almost twenty four years... here I am, ready to publish my experiences and expose myself to the world (or at least to those interested in reading about my misadventures). I have recently come to a realization; what good can come out of this nightmare of a life if I keep it to myself?

My story is not an extraordinary one, but it is mine. I hope to share the wisdom I have gained as I navigate life as a Prison Wife. If I can shed some light or give hope to one person, then I can say that it's all been worth it.

"Why so much time?" you must be wondering... My husband did not kill anyone. He is a first time offender who received 37 and a half years to life in prison in New York State. His is a Rockefeller Case which carries mandatory minimums that rip families apart for excessive amounts of time.


  1. My dear Wanda, when I was a kid I learn the following: "something are too big to hold inside and the only way to feel better is talk about it". I don't know if this is your case or situation, but the recommendation apply to your live. It's a great idea to create a blog to talk about it! Now (from my side) I can understand a little bit more your reality and your personal situation. Thanks for share it.. My principal recommendation: "Never let go of God's hand, tighten it with prayer". JRivera.

    José R. Rivera Labrador, your cousin!

  2. Looking forward to seeing you share your story( and his!) with the world. Brava!

  3. Wow, that is great you are sharing your story, I am proud of you and all the things you have accomplished. Can not wait to hear more, thNkz for sharing

  4. Thank you for being bold enough to share your story and journey!

  5. Wow! Brava indeed! So glad you did because this way people can reach out and maybe find ways to help. What is happening now? No appeals? Hopes of him getting out?

    1. There's always hope. We are working with a lawyer and pray he will be coming home sooner than later.

  6. Wow! So proud of you and the courage you possess. This is what makes you someone I have always admired. I look forward to learning more about your journey. Thanks for sharing.